Getting the Ex Back

You know the feeling… it’s like a hole has been ripped through your stomach and someone has ripped out the most delicate part of your being… It’s there 24/7. That empty, depressing, helpless, sickening feeling that relentlessly shades every aspect of your life from the beginning.

The Break Up!

Like John Mayer wrote in one of his brilliant songs “…when you’re dreaming with a broken heart, the waking up is the hardest part, you fall out of bed, and down on your knees, and for a moment you can hardly breathe…” The feeling is depressing!

Then you go slightly insane. You know what I mean. The constant sending of text messages, the constant emails, calling your ex several times a day, always checking your emails or text messages to see whether they have had a change of heart… you’re feeling so depressed and maybe even debating as to why they left you, that it requires you to turn the radio off because every song makes you remember them and, as well as a major loss of desire to eat, you have also the dilema of bingeing on food and drinking to contend with until it eventually culminates in the intoxicated telephone call (those couple of drinks were supposed to make you forget about them…) where you might even beg them to take you back.

Now while not everyone behaves this way and has all these feelings the fact still remains that for the majority of people involved in a separation with their partner will have at least some of these symptoms to contend with.

So what to do!

Let me enlighten you, at this point you need a little more than an apology and the promise that you will change (even if it wasn’t your fault) to get them back. What is needed is that which is going to make them reconsider their decision and start to show interest in a reunion, in other words, something to give you your power back.

Now although you have been behaving like a crazy person and have done most (if not all) of the above stalker tactics , it is still not too late to regain some of that lost territory and alter the way things are. So rather than going down the path of further self degradation, take a deep breath and in a relaxed manner, give them some spark which is going to reignite their interest.

The first thing to do should be to write them a brief note telling them that even though you have been acting a bit crazy, you have now regained your senses and that now you have thought about it, you now endorse] the break up. You even thought about it yourself occasionally before it actually happened. Don’t forget that one of the easiest to spot and predictable traits of people, is that they always crave what they can’t have!