“Can we keep the lights off, darling?” This sweet request from your wife is a cue to her self consciousness about her ‘not-so-perfect’ body.

Be it her thundering thighs, ugly stretch marks or her flabby tummy - body issues are one of the most prominent fears in a woman's mind that can either drive her behind the darkness or make her averse to enjoying nakedness with her partner.

Get over it: ‘Talking it out’ is the most easiest and promising way to fight this fear. “Husband needs to communicate well to their wives that their love goes beyond their physical appearance. Also, he should build her confidence by showering her with compliments every now and then,” suggests relationship expert Smita Dogra. Encourage your lady love to join a health club or a yoga class and if she is hesitant then try and enroll with her so that she feels closer to you.Also, experts feel that watching your beau in work-out sessions can also act as a stimulus for a night of great sex.

Man’s expectations or s-expectations are unending. But very often they play a crucial role in making or marring their lady love's performance in bed. From expecting their wives to maneuver like the actress they saw in the porn-flick last night to wanting her to fulfill all their kinky fantasies irrespective of her choice and comfort, men and their sexual demands leave a woman jittery.

Get over it: Is it wrong for men to expect reciprocation from their partner? Well, not at all, While putting your s-expectations before your beloved, take care of what kind of a person she is. Not everyone may like what you are crazy about. Play the game of patience, rather than creating pressure on your woman. Get to know how she wants to go ahead and then choose a mid way. Let her bloom in her comfort zone for sometime and she’ll love to give you what you want in some time. After all, she also loves you.”

If a partner who expects too much is a fear for a woman, she equally dreads an inconsiderate partner. A man who’s indifferent to his wife’s needs when it comes to his own pleasure motives doesn’t score really well either. For instance, women love enjoying a prolonged foreplay, while men are direct attackers, which leaves women unsatisfied at the end.

Get over it : Remember that love making becomes fun when both the partners participate in the pleasure pact equally. And this will happen only when partners also think about the other,” says Dogra. So, men should stop blowing the trumpet of their personal needs and pay heed to what their wife wants. “Women inversely must tell their partners what they love and like. Appreciate your man's moves if they turn you on and gradually you’ll realise he’ll give you just what you want.

If performance anxiety leaves men weak in the knees, the ability to reach an ‘orgasm’ is what makes women equally apprehensive about their sexual abilities. Whether I’ll climax or not? Will I achieve bliss with him? Or for that matter what if I do not climax? These are some of the common questions that keep harrowing a woman’s mind before every night of love-making. Not just this, even a number of myths keep them off a satisfying session ultimately landing leading them
to the conclusion that it’s impossible to have a satisfying sexual journey.

Get over it: The key to satisfying love-making is to relax and enjoy the journey rather than concentrating on whether you have reached climax or not. Too much focus on the orgasm can divert your attention away from the pleasure and lead to frustration and a sense of stress every time you think of going for another session. However,
discussing with your man about the kind of moves and strokes that give you maximum pleasure can be another step towards bliss.